The Blessings And The Curses Of Online Dating

Online dating is a revolutionary way in which singles meet on various dating websites available at just a click away. Unlike the traditional method of dating and meeting new people, online dating is regarded as an easier way for the youths and singles to meet and start up a relationship with a total stranger.

The world is a very large place with over 7 billion people, thus, the chance of encountering your soulmate in your day-to-day life is very slim, especially if you are a career person or a very busy person who has little or no time nor energy for traditional method of meeting a new person on emotional grounds. This is where online dating perfectly comes in because of its flexibility and mobility. You can be on the go and still keep in touch with your online partner via the various modern gadgets and social media sites out there.

Also, online dating websites are helpful for people who are shy because there is less pressure in sending a message than approaching someone in person like the traditional method. Also, it appears that the electronic dating  offers the benefit of relaxed atmosphere, where you can take time to think about what you want to say without being afraid or shy to say it.

Furthermore, it increases likelihood of finding a compatible match through filters which helps to scan the net for singles with similar interests and priorities to better your chances of a quality love life. Also, online dating progresses from online chatting, to phone conversation, and then to meeting in person. This allow you to know more about one another before the first meeting date.

Moreso, it provides a unique opportunity to know the person behind the face through live video chat. This can take away the shallow decision-making effects of physical attraction and give your heart an unbiased opportunity to fall in love.

Online dating, nevertheless, remain the most interesting and advanced method of dating and meeting people due to the fact that the world is gradually moving to computer age where everyone now have access to the Internet. This prompts people to create profiles on social media sites with the intention of meeting people, dating, and creating a strong relationship through the steady communication that exist between them. As regards this topic, dating online is encouraged and supportive for anyone who prefer the medium as a method of dating and meeting people.

However, it will be too subjective to lay only emphasises on the benefits inherent in online relationship without primitive measurements of the dangers that abode in it.

One of such evils of online dating is what is known as ‘fad’ applications that squeezes money from punters with no intention of matching you with a suitable partner.

Before you throw caution to the wind and empty your wallet into the pockets of an online application  with the reckless abandon of a love-struck teenager, there are also other evils of online dating you should be mindful of. The commonest of them is the way people lie on their online dating profiles. This is hardly an earth-shattering revelation, people naturally want to be appealing. It is easier for people to lie in their online profile than to be completely honest.

  It is an unscientific fact that Women lie more than men when it comes to online profiling. The commonest dishonesty in online dating is faking looks. For instance, a woman will decide to post a picture of herself when she was younger just to deceive unsuspecting victims. While men are only marginally better in this regards, their commonest lie revolves around their financial status; specifically, they often lie about having a better paying job than they actually do. More than 60% of  young men online are guilty of this tactic, but this tactic does not only belongs to men as over 30% of women are now involve in this trend.

In the other hand, few, if not many of them do demand for online sex which is a big problem with online dating. There are actually genuine relationship-seeking men, but there are also many others online who are there simply looking for sex. It seems that many men make the assumption that if a woman has an online dating presence, she is born ready to have sex with any stranger that comes along in the name of online dating.

      Online dating does represent the convenience of being able to meet others that you possibly never would have otherwise, but women should be aware that they probably will receive rude/disgusting messages from horny guys, sexual propositions/requests, dick-pics, and a lot of creepy vibes.

Some of the participants, on the internet are  really  super elaborate and sophisticated farce relationship distract you from having any form of life savings. Not quite, but it is full of unscrupulous vendors looking to separate you from your money by whatever means possible (in other news, have you heard about the secret to getting killer pen**s in less than 7 minutes using this 1 weird trick? Scams have been around as long as the internet (possibly even before…). Of course there are pitfalls and tripwires in every sphere of life, but this may be particularly true in the context of online dating. There are literally hundreds (if not thousands) of online scams, and I’m not going to run through any in detail here, but do some research before you go giving your bank details to ‘Nigerian princes’ promising ‘fun moments’. As a matter of fact, you should probably be wary of any person, group or entity asking for any kind of financial or personal information.

Consequently, more than one-third of all people who use online dating sites have never actually gone on a date with someone they met online, those that somehow do manage to find someone else they are willing to marry and who is willing to marry them (a vanishingly tiny subset of online daters) face an uphill battle.

 A research says relationships that start online are likely to break down in their first year, than relationships where the couples first met face-to-face. And it gets worse. Couples who met online are nearly 3 times as likely to get divorced as couples that met face-to-face.

However, online dating as stated earlier, is not all misery and woe. While the overwhelming majority of romantic relationships still begin offline, the best  suggestion is that the two partner who meet online should see face-to-face before making any serious commitment.

Written by: Ifeoluwa Omowumi Adedokun.